I know what you're saying gritter, I am acting out of anger and frustration. I feel unfairly cheated out of my life and my children have been cheated out of theirs. I feel I/we deserve better than this stupid pretense. I feel W should not be allowed the luxury of pursuing OM w/o facing the consequences of her choices. These are feelings I am literally having to fight off every minute of every day I honestly wish she'd GTF out of my life right now, and I fantaasize about putting all her crap in moving boxes. I'll calm myself down before I go home. Think I'll be late.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
Oh Yeah. She also mentioned she's going to open a seperate bank acct and wants to squirrel away money for herself. How should I react to that?
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
How is telling her she's not thinking rationally, "dropping a bomb"?
When a WAW acts like a child, I cannot help but begin treating her like a child. Tell me what I should do? (after I calm down)
Pickle
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
dmod: my original goal was to somehow lead her down a path that will make her doubt her choice to destroy the home and marriage, with the long term goal of - you know - eventually both of us working on the R. Believe it or not, it wasn't that long ago we were star crossed lovers. I'm having real difficulty seeing no progress - desperately need support and ideas. Some warm female companionship would be nice too - the woman is an icicle.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
I'm having real difficulty seeing no progress - desperately need support and ideas.
Sometimes seeing progress is slow. You must keep your expectations low. This is not going to be fixed overnight! It is going to take a lot of hard work and time.
Time is the one commodity that you now have a lot of. It is a GIFT. From your wife. Make the best use of it.
She said she talked to a lawyer today - still scared to death of exposure.
Gritter - It's hard to validate - she's too confrontational.
I wish she'd just go away.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
Can I teach you how to make quotes on your thread? It will make your posts a little easier to read.
Easiest way, hit quote button on the bottom, instead of reply and eliminate(delete) text you do not want.
Second way copy text the way you are and hit 5th button from the right which will give you [quote][/quote I am leaving out last bracket, paste text between brackets.
Third way is to type above in manually [quote] ..text..[/quote .....(again last bracket missing).
You can use the preview button to see what your post will look like before you submit it.
The edit portion of this forum is disabled so the preview button is a must in order to catch your mistakes before you post.
