How Did Piecing Start for You?

[Freckle6]

My H initiated it after a nearly 5 year separation. I hadn't totally gotten over him yet, but had pretty much written him off years before.

Early interactions were casual and getting to know each other again after so long apart. We never did get heavy into any R talks or get into everything that went down during the bomb. We've talked about stuff here and there, but I haven't (and don't) see the need for a full debriefing of everything as, for us, it had been so long ago.

It really has been like starting anew for us and progressed in seriousness like a new relationship would. We saw each other occasionally on weekends and maybe a random weeknight but it was never assumed. In the spring it progressed to him spending every weekend from Friday after work through Sunday afternoons here and was more of a standing arrangement rather than, "Hey, you wanna hang out tonight?" thing. At the end of Sept. he moved back in.

I'm very glad we've been taking things slow. After the loss of trust, it wouldn't be genuine to pick up where we left off and expect things to go well. We have literally been building a new M--though we're legally divorced now... LOL. But we here know that "piece of paper" doesn't really ensure a M where both people are invested physically and emotionally, in a real marital relationship.