Im am sorry you are here. You have had some great advise. Keep taking care of you. One thing that I know from my experience, they dont think clearly, they have stopped thinking about the future with you. Your house and finances connect them to you. I wish I had taken the advise given to me along time ago, things might have been different.
If the phone is in your name and he is using it to continue his EA (i suspect PA) then yes take it back. If he cant meet his financial obligations and you can manage on your own, tell him if he really wants the separation then he can leave and help him pack. If you are paying for him to live and allowing him to have this other relationship he has the best of both worlds.
Focus on lyou, but at the same time dont make it easy for him to forget about everything and live in his new reality.
