I just cant figure how you can live with someone and tell them about you money issues, your health issues, the fact that the dealer has your car as you cant pay for it.
Stop trying to figure her R with OM out.
Not your problem it is theirs and it is fantasy. It will end on its own or it won't you have nothing to do with it.
Originally Posted By: Tank
She comes to me to discuss it and have me bail her out.
This is cake eating IMO.
How you handle this is very important.
You can get pissed about it and come across as a controlling A-hole
You can allow it to continue and feel the pain it causes you to be emotionally involved in her life while she is having fun with OM.
Or
You can say "I am sorry you are having these troubles in your life."
Validation.
"I hope you understand that given the current state of our R that I am not comfortable talking about these things with you."
Boundary. Stop the conversation.
The second part you do IF you need to.
Or I should say until you are detached enough to be able to just listen and not feel like she is treading on you.
It is a subtle balance.
It IS a good sign that she wants to share these things with you and NOT OM.
That is my opinion. But she is having her cake and eating it too.
You have to stop enabling that.
How you communicate that makes all the difference in the world it can be an opportunity to show her the new and improved Tank.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
