Hope your Thanksgiving was great, in spite of the sitch we find ourselves in. You are sounding so much stronger than you were a short time ago. I think you are doing wonderfully and also being the 'adult' your daughter needs and wants. Don't think she doesn't notice it either. You are right, your H is missing out on a lot, but they somehow always manage to legitimize their wants being met first before everyone else's.
Not an adult way of doing things.
Hope this is the first day of a great Holiday season for you and your D.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011