kk ~ I know our paths have crossed on different threads (and I love the picture of your kitty...I have a black one... )--this thread is AWESOME!!!
Here is a negative that goes through my head.... I haven't heard from H is a few days...why is that (fill in with most ridiculous idea you can possibly think of....)???
replace with..... I am keeping busy these days and I guess H is too. He must be working hard or spending time with his family....
I tend to "make up" scenarios that are much worse than reality--I guess I have an active imagination! I won't hear from H and will be sure he has found an OW then I'll find out he was with his family or working!
Also, someone here said you can't explain how to detach. I agree--it is like riding a bike--once you can do it, you've go it! I think we all backslide at times in our detachment, but the time spent being detached gets longer and longer and the sadness seems to become more of a fleeting thought than a long-term feeling. Make sense??
I think what you are doing here will help all of us not only detach, but stay detached because replacing a negative with a positive is a great strategy!!!!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)