Need insight

[Truegritter]

why sould I protect her, when she's the one destroying the home?

Why should you?

There is actively protecting and there is actively destroying.

In between may lie the answer.

Are you fighting for your M or working on your M?

Which will help you get to your goal?

She got all defensive.

Really?

Shocker.

Look you are the bad guy in her eyes right now. Her actions are inexcusable and I am not telling you to accept her behavior.

But you have to stop lobbing bombs over the fence at her because it will get YOU nowhere.

I flat out told her she was not thinking rationally about money or anything else.

<<<<<<<whistling sound...............BOOM!>>>>>>>

She is not your child so stop talking to her like one.

Protect yourself financially the best way you can but this is not the way to do it. Boundaries are to protect you so how can you make a finacial boundary and enforce it?

I'm so pissed right now

I can tell.

So can she.

What is making you feel pissed? Why do you feel you are protecting her?

Or

Is it she is just not doing what YOU want right now?

Because she doesn't want what YOU want right now.

You need to get yourself out of the pissed life.

It won't serve you no matter what happens.