so, last night was w visit with the kids. she called me at work to say she had no way to get to see them. I offered to pick her up so they kids could see her.
The drive was ver interesting, she wanted to talk. She is stressed out, she says she cant find a job. She cant pay anything for her car and she doesnt want it to hurt my credit. I told her not to worry about it, i would take care of it. We then talked about her health. Her cancer hasnt spread this time and the treatments seem to be working. told her i was very glad for that.
We talked about how she was doing and what she was doing for herself. Surprisingly she is doing nothing. I asked her why she brings all her issues to me and not OM. She said its hard to explain. So I said try. She says their relationship is different. They like each others company but they dont discuss life. I was a little shocked by this but kept that to myself. I did say that when your in a relationship, the 2 people shuold discuss the issues and find solutions to the problems. They have lived together for 9 months now, they should be solving her financial issues together. She shouldnt always come to me to figure it out. They apparantly dont discuss real world issues. when they are together they enjoy each others company, they dont talk about life, their future or pretty much anything that could cause stress. I just simply said, well that sounds like you will go far in that relationship. Life has stress, life has committments, and if you cant share them with your partner, well then things can get kinda lonely.
She told me that it was hard, she has strong feelings for OM but its hard to be with someone that everyone you love wont accept. She tries to leave and she gets sucked back in. At this point all I said was, "is this relationship worth all of the stress that its costing you? her reply, thats the question of the year.
On the way to drop her off, i reaqlly didnt say much, i told her that if she needed to talk, if i could i would listen. If i wasnt able to, she would have to respect that and not get angry when i tell her I cant. She did ask me why it took so long for me to change, and i simply said, i'm a stubborn fool, i need to lose everything that was important to me before it sunk in. She said that it was too bad, that the changes ive made are great, but she feels to late.
I didnt say anything after that. I dropped her off at home told her goodbye and my thoughts were with her.
