These posts are great! A lightbulb went off in my head when reading them. I think I am able to get a glimpse of detaching sometimes, and then I lose it quickly. But I am aware of separating my feelings from H and caring more about how he is doing then trying to control him. I do know it feels so much better when I detach, even if brief, than when I get controlling b/c I can't control anything and then I get enraged. I have begun to look at all the things that happen in a day that I cannot control, like traffic, the cashier in the supermarket who is soooo slow, the unwanted phone calls I get everday, etc. I realized that there is very little in life we have control over except the way we react to things and people. I need to concentrate on me more and hopefully the detatching skills will just kick into gear real soon. Thanks for the posts.
