My heart is in her hands

[FellOnBlackDays]

Sinclair,
I am in the same boat. I am trying to execute a 180 with a wife that won't see me. I have not been in her presence in 28 days. When we were married, the longest we ever went without seeing each other was five days and during that time, we spoke three times a day. I am also looking for advice on how to pull off a 180 with someone than can't see the changes because she won't see me. But I am not going to let this deter me. In that 28 days, I have not tried to contact her once and I have gotten one positive sign. She sent me an email out of the blue a few days ago after weeks of no communication. It was only one sentence, but it was the only communication she has instituted in weeks. Today, she sent me a one line text wishing me a Happy Thanksgiving. I sent back a one-line, basic friendly reply and let it go. No "I miss you," no "I love you." Just "Happy Thanksgiving and I hope you are doing well," and signed off. More importantly, I waited two hours to reply just to keep her guessing. Don't ever reply right away unless it is necessary. Don't let her know that you are sitting there waiting for contact. I don't want to get too excited about the communication today, but it is something to keep me going.

Also, I can't stress enough the power of exercise. Three weeks ago I went back to the gym for the first time in 10 years. I now work out four days a week for 90 minutes per session. I bought an Ipod, filled it with motivational music and hit the weights like a mad man every other day. I have put three pounds of the 10 I lost after she left back on. I am eating like a horse again and I have already gotten some compliments about how much better I look. I have to admit I was pushed into it by another friend of mine who had his wife leave him also. He looks like an NFL linebacker now due to his time in the gym. The best thing is that when I leave the gym, I feel great and for 90 minutes, I don't think about anything but busting my own butt with the weights. Give it a try. You won't regret it. Not to mention, the next time she does she you, you will have a new confidence about yourself that she has not seen. I wish you the best of luck and stay in touch.

Fellonblackdays