I don't envision S ever knowing that I am dating someone until I am in something meaningful. I will talk about the man before I introduce him, he will hear his voice on the phone when we talk, so I wouldn't be just springing this man on him one day (like how I met my stepdad. Came home from school and there was my dad. Yep, they got married without even telling me! I was in kindergarten. Isn't that weird?)
Now that S is getting older and more observant, I would be nervous to have someone else spend the night while S was here--unless he left before the morning. Obviously it wouldn't be a one night stand, but more along the lines of someone I had been seeing for awhile. I mean am I supposed to only see someone one night per week for 6 months, then introduce him to S, and then start seeing him more after that point only to find out I don't like him? How confusing.
Oh and it has always been a pet peeve of mine when single parents introduce their girlfriend or boyfriend to their kids as "this is mommy's friend,___" What is wrong with just saying "boyfriend?"
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
