I can't begin to express my excitement in finding this resource and website. I pulled myself together and grabbed the DR book. I have been reading it and re-reading it in addition to praying and doing whatever it takes to keep myself busy. -I also bought it for a friend who is having marrital problems.
Husband was getting frequent phone calls and texts from an old female friend. One who seems to pop up every couple of years to make my life miserable. Anyhow, I told my husband I wasn't confortable with her calling. He didn't respond. I wrote him a long letter and began to withdraw from him because I was becoming more and more angry about his determination to keep his friendship with her. I suppose he told her, because she wrote him in an e-mail. I asked to see the e-mail he refused and that is where everything spiraled out of control. We went from having a plan to go to couseling to consulting lawyers about divorce. I backed off and said I didn't want a divorce and he would have to pursue it on his own. We are still living together and probably will be doing so for awhile. He sleeps on the couch and we hardly interact at all.
Okay, so when I put the brakes on, I suggested we go back to our original plan to go to marriage counseling. My husband said no. It crushed me because he actually accused me of threatening to make the divorce difficult, which is totally not my plan even though I don't want to divorce. I told him that we should do it at the very least to say we tried everything and at best it would benefit our children if we could get along. He said he had no problem getting along with me... Whatever. . .
Anyhow, jumping ahead to after meeting alone with my MC. I implemented the LRT and less than a week he wanted to do couseling under the guise of communicating for our children. (Yay!) Keeping my cool of course, I said that I would be okay with it. I told him I still wanted to save our marriage though; which caused him to become offish. (oops)
Even though he was having the EA, I feel like I am the one who is being punished for it; which frankly pisses me off! He is always short with me. It's obviouse he is angry and resents me.I can't say or do anything without him finding reason to become angry at me.
After reading the DR book, I realized that my husband has many, many, many misconceptions about marriage and divorce. I want so badly to give him a copy of the DR OR DB book; but know that might just push him away more. So, I have been praying that it might land in his hands another way. Any suggestions?
Okay, so anyone out there have any suggestions on how I might get my husband to read the book DB???
