Hi Angel, It looks like you're making more progress than I am and that's fantastic! I'm cheerleadin' for ya (and praying).
We are kind of taking the same approach. I tried the hard line stand, and that almost set everything back a hundred miles. She would have hated me for tossing her stuff in the driveway, because she's the independent, proud type and would never beg or plead. The kids would have been devastated and probably scarred for life and I, not her, would have wound up getting friggin blame.
No I am taking the best friend slash last resort technique approach and it's going slowley, simply 'cause she is hell bent on seeing this old flame. I expect there will be a rude awakening, and I don't mean the TSA pat down. Nobody looks anywhere close at 47 how they appeared at 19. I checked out his facebook; he looks like Danny effing DiVito. If she wants him she can effing have him!
No, if worse comes to worse and I cannot save my marriage, I will know I did everything humanly possible, and everyone will know clearly that it was she who destroyed the family. And if she snaps out of this nightmare and comes to her senses, only time will tell; I'm here for the long haul.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
