I don't understand how you can move on without going dark. I don't think I can.
That isn't to say I'd ignore my ex-b after the 1st if he wants to contact me. But if I am in any major contact with him, I'll just want more, and then more, and won't get as much of a life as I need to.
I have waited this year for him, and I think that for me, going dark is the best thing. Otherwise I start scrutizing what he is doing - and I can drive myself crazy doing that. I need to be sane, and happy, and he should realize that he has had a R with me even when he thinks he doesn't.
