I wouldn't be able to be intimate with a man if my younger kids were home.
You know, I didn't think it would work for me either...but apparently where there's a will, there's a way . We are very careful though...my kids have no idea that he's been in our home, and there's never been a meeting of any kind. It's not perfect, but with STBXH's weird schedule that I have to work around (different overnights each week), he only takes the kids 1/4 of nights, and Guitarist works night shifts frequently...there really are limited options for spending time together and if we didn't push the envelope by spending time together this way, it really would be hard to start a relationship. I truly believe that my children are benefiting from this relationship being in my life. I am going some very tough parenting and life stuff, and this relationship is something that nourishes me and helps me to face the hard stuff.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. We are very careful though...my kids have no idea that he's been in our home, and there's never been a meeting of any kind. It's not perfect, but with STBXH's weird schedule that I have to work around (different overnights each week), he only takes the kids 1/4 of nights, and Guitarist works night shifts frequently...there really are limited options for spending time together and if we didn't push the envelope by spending time together this way, it really would be hard to start a relationship. I truly believe that my children are benefiting from this relationship being in my life. I am going some very tough parenting and life stuff, and this relationship is something that nourishes me and helps me to face the hard stuff.
