I think many people confuse detaching with going dark. They think that in order to detatch they have to totally shut themselves off from the other person...this does not have to be the case. I try to look at it as a separation of ones emotions/feelings from the sitch...not from the person. I don't necessarily think that separating oneself from the person is a very good solution (going dark) in most cases. OF course, there are times when going dark is the only wake-up call that some people will understand.
Detatchment should come first. Going dark should only be when absolutely necessary.
Hugz, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
