Pickle, Happy Thanksgiving. I had the oportunity to catch up on your sitch, we seem to have such similar ones, except that D is not being discussed. My H also seems to be wanting help in coping, going back to our "best friend" days prior to M. I am hesitatnt to be too open at this point because it hurts, and also, don't want to hand to him on a silver platter the defenses I have worked on. Its so hard to set boundaries when we are not ready yet to accept what would happen if they were not met. I have been reading a lot lately, and one book that helped me to face myself and to love in a Godly manner is "The Love Dare", making me realize that loving unconditionally, even if your love is rejected, is how it was meant to be. I did not do the one dare per day instructions, one of these days when our M is more stable I will go back to it. I see you are a prayerful man, this book will bring you to your knees to pray for your W and M.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
