Thank You. I will tell you, I was a point where I HAD to be on here to get through sometimes. Do exactly that... Post Away... Read up on others... I'm at a much better place... It took time. I am FAR from OK, but better. I wish you much luck, but know that either way you can move on and live happy. Sometimes I look around at other people... There are a gazillion of them... They have their own lives... Their own friends... You are no part of it... So is it such a big deal to start over and her not be an integral part... NO... We will be like them living life without her... and ABSOLUTELY OK... Maybe even HAPPY! I'm still reading the books, but they help for sure. Good Luck! Kids are playing and having a ball... I'm smiling at them laughing and goofing around with eachother... Not a sad thought in my head. Time to check that turkey... My first Thanksgiving dinner (alot of help from sis).