MLC or just an EA?

[angel61]

Back to story....
Today, he was talking to me about how he feels, and asking if I prefer our openess to not communicating. He thinks that things may end between him and OW soon. He however is bargaining, wanting a bit more, even if he knows it is temporary, and I likened it to a diabetic wanting to finish that last chocolate bar before going on a diet, and he laughed at that.

I don't know if this regression means that it is like we are starting all over again like before, which is weird, feels like living a double life since we are married, have a kid, am so integrated into his family like today.

I have been reading a lot of books out there. Many point out to the fact that love can be reestablished, that you can "love the one you are with", but how can I point this out to him when he is in the "i feel this way, never felt this with you" kind of mindset? I want to say that what we had was different, beautiful in a different way, but like many in MLC, he is in denial?

I need him to realize these but I think he is not prepared, and I am not willing to risk that he will leave and we will both miss out on our future. I'd rather regret trying too hard than not trying at all. But again, am I crazy?

dbmod, I am happy to be empowered, and i think MWD and her book is a Godsend, without it I would not have been able to start on this soul searching journey. But I have a long way to go.

Paging Pickle - I feel that of all of you here, you are closest to my mindset....how are you doing now?

Thans everyone for the replies and encouragement!

Angel