Quote: When you detach with love, you acknowledge that you cannot control the other person's emotions and actions but that you trust him to do what is best; no matter what the final outcome is; no matter what decisions the other person makes. You have to trust that he will make the best decison for himself and therefore ultimately for the R. To let someone know you believe in him this way is the strongest validation of his personhood you can/will ever make. It takes tremndous courage and faith to tell someone that you love him enough to want whatever will make him happy, that you respect and trust him enough to know he will make the right decision - even if that means they might not choose to come back into the relationship. Paradoxical as it seems, this is a win-win scenario for you. Your partner is going to find you much more desirable when you feel confident enough to make such a supportive statement then when you are needy and desparate ...
This is SOOOOO true! I needed to read this! Now I will get on track. I believe that I was concentrating too much on him and getting him back? i think I was...maybe not. I kept saying no expectations, but we all have to have that little bit of hope?!
Anyway I liked the post and thanks for posting it!
