Kewlkitti What you have written is so powerful and true. I know it is important to find yourself and be happy and will be more attractive to your spouse. But WOW that is such a hard thing to do, when you are hurting for so long. It is so difficult NOT to obsess with your spouse. I think when more detachment arrives, my life will move on, but waiting for that moment or a level of detachment appears to be so slow to come. Aghhh, it hurts so much. It is so easy for the spouse as she left the marriage and is having fun with her new friends (and F’n male) and left all the responsibilities to me
