Fix me, fix my life, win back my wife

[ScaredinCanada]

I'm feeling really good about my progress lately even though my W noticing is usually followed by a comment to the effect of "just stop it, that's not who you are".

Last night I told her I was taking the kids swimming, and we had a fantastic time. She told me she was going shopping with her mother and that she be back to help me put the kids to bed.

I ended up getting home late (getting 3 little girls showered and dressed at a public pool is a ton of work!!) and was kind of surprised to see that my W was not home. So I got the kids to bed, and finished cleaning up the kitchen from dinner.

As I am finishing making the kids lunches for school, my W shows up. She's half in the bag, since they decided to go have some drinks after shoping (in side I was frustrated) but I put on a happy face and just said "I hope you had fun". To which she responded "How does it feel to have to do EVERYTHING yourself???" to which I respond "I'm actually enjoying it a lot, I'm kind of surprised" to which she had to respond "Well try doing it for 7 years and then we'll see how you feel" and she went upto bed.

Of course I was hurt, angry and frustrated so instead of following her upstairs I just finished the lunches and picked up the kids toys and took the dog out quickly (continued to be busy). I came upto bed (total of probably 15 minutes after she went upstairs to bed) and climbed into bed and said "Good night" to which she didn't say anything.

The best part is...I feel awesome! Like has been said in other threads I've read - she is frustrated that I am not devestated to be "out in her shoes".

I've been good all week, she works tonight and I have hockey (can't wait) - so she'll be in bed by the time I get home from hockey. We likely won't say anything to each other today.

Enjoy the midday football everyone! I wish I was having turkey today...Happy Thanksgiving to those celebrating!