Truegritter has given you excellent advice and Bill's post is excellent.
Sometimes folks who expose are able to end the other person's affair. Sometimes it pushes them to the other person. It is never a tactic for bringing more love in your life. If the marriage survives exposure......it takes a LOT more time to heal.
Do you want that? I doubt it. I imagine what you want is your wife to love you and want to be with you. Spend your energy working on that and stop entertaining those other ideas.
