MLC or just an EA?

[angel61]

Thanks both, but I just got a new dilemma. Just today, my H said that OW has not been talking to him, and he is starting to feel depressed. He noted that thankfully, for the sake of our family, I am getting out of the depression stage, so we are not down together. This time, I am again thrust into the role of the stronger one (as I have been in the early part of our M).

It seems like he is now in withdrawal. I can see him trying to cope, especially since we drove today to spend Thanksgiving with family.

I am not too sure how to handle this new development. I feel resentful that he is so affected by the OW rejection, but again, thankful that this is happening and hopeful that it will be the end of the A, so I cannot really feel empathy for him. I am almost gleeful, to be honest, but am stopping myself from grinning from ear to ear.

My plan for now is to be quiet, supportive but not offer too much help, and still maintain some detachment. I will listen, offer a shoulder to cry on if need be.

He is asking for some insight from me on how to cope with depression, but I am afraid to suggest as if it doesn't work might be blamed. I just said prayer and sould searching.... I thought they are pretty safe .... and feel that he should ultimately handle it by himself.

Any thoughts out there?