G450, if I was broke and raising a soon-to-be-teenaged son without a father in the picture, I'd be looking for a surrogate dad for sure. She may be hoping that you'll embrace that role eventually, but it doesn't sound like you're up for that. Yes, they are a package deal. She may not be putting him in grandparent care because she wants to spend time with BOTH of you, and wishes to create a family scenario. It sounds like some communication might be in order here. You might want to probe into what she is hoping for in this situation. You put her on the spot by saying "well what more should I be doing?" and that shut her up...but you will have to approach it more subtly if you really want to know her thoughts on this.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
