I do believe however that the most important first step in dealing with a marriage in distress is to find your own footing - to get yourself on an even keel and begin thinking about where YOU have fallen off the path.
Too much of our focus is on our spouse and the impending loss of the marriage.
One perspective I can bring from my own experience is that, while this hurts down to your core right now, you WILL survive this chaos.
And when things do eventually calm down and we look back, we see how our desperation really only served to make things worse for everyone and everything.
Perhaps it cannot be helped. When our spouse chooses to walk away and leave the marriage, it is absolutely devastating. From that respect, it's easy to understand why we choose a course of action that SEEMS so right, but really only appeases the emotional pain we are feeling inside.
It's a false appeasement though. At least that's what I think most of us find out.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
