So........at work today, got an interesting view into the mind of a real WAW (don't know if she's an MLCer or not) and I want to tell you about it here.
About 3 weeks ago I evaluated a 40 something woman with chronic pain. I'm going to refer to her as WAW. In our clinic, patients who have a lot of stress, anxiety, or depression are often referred to one of our psychologists because these factors can aggravate pain. Well, today WAW had her first session with a psychologist and afterward, the psychologist told me about their convo.
WAW met her current BF at work somewhere on the west coast. They were co-workers, both M'ed to other people. They decided they wanted to be together and D'ed their spouses. Her BF's XW moved to my state with their children. BF wanted to be near his children, so WAW and BF moved to my state. WAW left her own 2 children with XH on the west coast and never sees them. WAW put ~$60K down to buy the house that she and BF live in. WAW has had trouble holding down a job since arriving here (BF does have a job), so she is currently unemployed. BF pays the mortgage payments but is resentful that WAW doesn't have a job. WAW is resentful that BF didn't contribute to the downpayment for the home they live in. WAW thinks BF's children are brats. WAW was taking antidepressants, but BF doesn't want her to take drugs, so she quit taking the antidepressants.
She is one of these people in whom you can sense anger lying just beneath the surface. She has no self-awareness and takes no responsibility for anything that she does that contributes to her chronic pain (e.g. habits). So 2-3 years after WAW and BF left their Ms, they are both still miserable. (No big surprise, I know --- GAG crosses her eyes. Duhhh!!!!!!!)
Here's the part I found fascinating..............the psychologist said that WAW sees herself as a victim. WAW has engineered all of this and left a path of destruction..and SHE SEES HERSELF AS A VICTIM!.......and that's why she is angry and doesn't see a need to take control over factors in her life that are making her unhappy (i.e. behaviors that contribute to her chronic pain, unemployment, depression). Psychologist said that this WAW probably will probably become more deeply depressed in the next couple years.
