New here, looking for help.

[MisterHopeful]

Sorry I wasn't clear on that, I gave her the option of not coming like shed actually suggested, I'd talked her into coming. Then as she mentioned she was talking with her girlfriend she offhandedly said she didn't want to really go. At that point I told her she didn't have to go if she didn't want to, it was ok. She kinda brushed that off and came with us.

Me initiating anything right now doesn't seem to be a good idea, I'm not really sure how to be romantic while not appearing to pursue. When I appear to pursue I'm getting a kind of cold shoulder, yet she seems excited about anything she suggests doing...