Cat - when he goes for the jugular I have done all of the above, however, in the last two weeks I can honestly say I haven't screamed back. Monday when he started yelling I just walked away from him. The door shut as he was still yelling at me. However, how is that helping me?? I'm sure he was PO'd when I walked back into the house.
The interesting/sad part is that yesterday and today are better days. I hate to say it, but when I have no contact with him, I feel better. Then I wonder if he feels the same way - that he's better off without me. If all the no contact is just making us realize how much better it is without the other, is there any chance for a reconciliation?
I just seem to be floundering lately. I hadn't really realized how long this was going on, but when I really considered it, my mom walked in on him at my house with the OW in April, he moved out in July, but "tried" to work on us until August, when it was really and truly over. And, we have been at each other's throats since then. So technically, we've been separated for 7 months already, really and truly separated for 3 months. I don't know ..... can things really work out after such a long time period. I wonder if choosing to DB after this length of time is too late???
M 41 H 41 D16 S 15 D 12 D 10 S 9 M 17 yrs OW Jan. 03 - May 04 S Dec. 03 - May 04 R May 04 - Apr 10 OW Apr 10 S Aug.10 ** H wants LS and D **
