Hi Shelby, I read on your thread you got invited to the inlaw's for Tday.

Be careful what you say! Of course, if they want to they can make up anything--but when I got invited to my H's family's Xmas party last year his mother "heard" me say I was going to go after some hot young guy soon. Um, I am sure I would not have said that but at his parents house, but..whatever.

Hey D4ML--I AM on "the alt" How would I contact you??

Well, I was so upset about mediation being on the 30th. Now I am so thankful!! Our church has been preaching about being thankful regardless of our circumstances. And when you dwell on the positives, they are multiplied (as well as when you dwell on the negatives, they too are multiplied). So in all your circumstances give thanks, and take the time to notice the positives in your life.

This was such a good message for me! After last week I just noticed SO MANY THINGS I was thankful for!! Especially friends--who never seem to tire of telling me that I'm smart, beautiful, and will be a success some day! What in the WORLD did I do to deserve them, I just do not know!!

So then yesterday I have to say I had probably one of the best days of my life! I found a real estate agent to help me get some comps on the house (my H is going to argue that the house is worth way more than it really is--NOTHING is selling right now) who just calmed so many of my fears--she has been divorced, she is a christian, and she has a sister that lives in the Ukraine!lol. Marina loved that part!!

Next my farrier came out and brought her handsome assistant, who proceeded in being very fun, flirty, and grabbed me up in another hug that was, OMG, like the BEST hug. This guy just knows what he is doing or something!

I was showing them my new Iphone and the videos they take and the awesome pictures, and showed them the one my H was so mad about (gay friend down the street). So my farrier says "let's take one of you and Trace (the assistant) and get your H really worked up!"

So he grabs me up again and we take some photos--and I tease him and tell him what a cute couple we make! He's all like "Yeah, we DO".lol.

Then I go to the feed store and show THEM my phone, and all the cool pictures and videos and we talk about all kinds of things and the girl finally writes up a ticket and charges me $13 for something instead of $27--I'm like, oh no, you made a mistake. She catches it but says, don't worry about it--I can do what I want, etc. I said I'm only going to protest once!lol.

Then I come home and work out and look around on my H's dresser (I work out in his room because he's got the DVD player) and I see that he has written all our assets, what he thinks the house is worth, and what he thinks the other property is worth on a tablet. And he is being fairly reasonable--he's written something that is MUCH closer to reality than I thought he'd write.

And for the first time in MONTHS I slept great and didn't wake up in the middle of the night with a panic attack! My sister wakes me up at 6, but...hey, I love my sis (keeping it positive here!lol)

Anyway, again, keeping it positive, I just LOVE this site!! It's been a lifesaver in SOOOO many ways--I see now SO clearly that 6 years ago when the firt "bomb" went off that finding this site has prepared me so well for the challenges I face today. I feel I have truly done everything I could have done. We didn't get the greatest C's, but my H didn't do anything that any of them told him to do anyway (the last one told him to give me back my credit cards--do you think he did that??) Oh, and he was going to read the 5 LLs, but that didn't happen either. I go back and forth about even mentioning it--I seem to always do the work for my H and this time it needs to be him doing something...

I'm cooking for H and S tomorrow--tried to find a soup kitchen but wasn't successful (wanted to do that in the a.m. with S)

I'm looking forward to a Turkey-day that I'm not doing everything and I'm exhausted by the end of it--yeah, my H is going to have to actually get off his rear and help for once!! Again, another first!! And it makes me actually enjoy the day more than I ever did when I was married to the guy!!