Me: 31 Husband: 31 Married: 10YRS Son: 10 Daughter: 7 Together: since we were 15 Husband left: June 11th and moved things out in August
Hello, I am new here and thought I would share my story as input would be great. I have watched my husband sink into depression further and further for the past two yrs. He has drank hisself stupid and wants to go play with his friends and go to the bars all the time. The last time he didnt come home till last call I told him to leave if he was so unhappy. He did and did not come back. Two yrs ago we both lost our jobs, house, and everything that we had. He also hit a deer on our harley and almost died due to drinking and driving. All he wanted to do towards the end is drink and play. He still hangs with my family and our friends. He is close to my dad and I am close to his mom. He is renting a house from my dad that is across the street from my gramma. We are taking care of the kids as a team and sharing and that is going well. The communication is almost daily but never about our relationship. All I hear if it is about our marriage is that I am a good woman and should move on and that he is unhappy and doesnt know why. He has said he wants a divorce cause it would never be like it was now but has not done anything towards making that happen at all. I have talked with someone and know my options but I dont want this and if I can do anthing to save my marriage I will. He is the only one I have ever been with and feel like this is all happening for a reason. He holds all emotion in so I feel like all the bad is just in him boiling. He wont talk to anyone as far as a therapist cuz there is no way he is depressed according to him. He is extremly grouchy at work and doesnt really care about anything anymore at all. Everything he does and says is out of character. I dont beleive its another woman as everyone we know we know together or is my family. It is possible but my gut is telling me he is miserable and just doesnt know why or how to fix it. I think he thought or may still think its our life but hasnt figured out he is more miserable than ever. I have been trying to do things for myself and finding me as I dont think I have ever been just me. He is losing his hair and growing a beer belly and that was really bothering him also. I just dont know what to think or how to fight this. I feel so helpless. I really miss him and our lil family. Doing my best to put on a happy face and only show the pain when the kiddos are in bed. I have lots of support but they all know us or are divorced so the ones I really need are negative most of the time. I am hoping to gain some encouragement here. I have read the divorce remedy and have been doing everything wrong so switching that all up right away. God give me strength.
Thanks for reading and hope to hear what you think.
