She makes a lot more money than me (about 100k to 35k) but bigger than that I think the fact that she was working in a corporate environment and I worked in my underwear bothered her way more than I realized.
Yes, and it's really sad that you are just now figuring that out. What is it was turned around and you were a business man who saw all these beautiful women throughout the day. Then you went home and found your W in a worn-out bath robe and her hair up in curlers. The house is in a mess and there's no dinner cooked. Well, that's about what she was seeing in you.
That list she left you was not the actual things she was unhappy about. She obviously doesn't know how to tell you. Who ends a ten year M b/c the S didn't fold the towels? Nobody! That was just the icing on the cake.
Do you think it strange that she's been unhappy for this long and you had no idea? Maybe it started while you were playing polker, or maybe that was the last straw. My bet (no pun intended) is that it was more about those times you "just blew it off" when something was bothering her.
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Even 2 nights before I moved out she got emotional and blurted out "YOU HAVE A LOT OF CHANGING TO DO" which I am sure she would not have said if she didn't see a chance for us.
Speaking as a former WAW,I don't see that statement necessarily meaning you need to make changes and she'll stay. It just means you really need to make changes in your life. She doesn't like who or what you've become.
My question is.....are you going to make those changes to get her back? Don't say yes b/c that's the wrong answer. The correct way is to make changes in order to be the best man that you can possibly be....for "you". You do this for life.....and you do it with or without her. If you change to get her back....it won't stick.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
