Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

Well, the pies are done. All that is left is the turkey tomorrow, and setting up. I will have all day to do that since I don't get S back until 3:30 tomorrow (he will get picked up at 9 as always...H always gets to have the fun without ever having to get up and do anything...sorry needed to vent there a little because I am always up early with S getting him ready).

Today I got the Property settlement in the mail. I get NOTHING. Pretty much everything will stay as is. H will get to leave our marriage without having to pay for any of the joint debt I am taking on. I think it stinks, but the L doesn't think I will get more so why waste the money.

On the good part, it says that I will have sole custody of S (which I have had since H left). H will still see S just like he does now so no change in that and he will get overnights if he ever moves out of his parents. I will get to always claim S for taxes (which is why I don't mind too much that H doesn't have to pay because that is $8000 I get to claim). H will have to start paying me $41 more per month in child support. Also once the D is final anything in the house is my property so if H doesn't get the rest of his junk by Jan 13...I can legally get rid of it without worrying about being sued.

Honestly, I think this is completely fair. I am getting what is most important to me and that is S, everything else doesn't matter too much. I would like to be compensated for paying for everything the 15 months he left and I hadn't filed, but you live and learn. He got a free ride. I feel like he is getting off free and clear and able to start a new life right away, but then I have S curl up next to me to cuddle while watching TV or think about how much H has missed out on with him and I remember I am the one who has everything.

I wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! I did cry after reading the agreement because I still believe we could make it work and I miss having a family to hang with all day, but tomorrow I will spend the evening with my family and most importantly S, and that is all I could wish for. I am so thankful for everything I have and for having the peace of mind that I am always taken care of.