Dear FMV, you most certainly have a right to feel hurt when you are treated badly. If anyone tells you otherwise, then that is poor advice from them. It's human to be hurt when those closest to us are mean, selfish, thoughtless, or in many ways.....a bully.

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It doesn't matter if their behavior is a result of reacting to their own pain and anger in their life.

- It doesn't matter if the pain that is causing them to hurt me 'seems' larger than the pain their behavior causes me.

- It doesn't matter if they imply that they're hurting me because I caused their pain in the first place.


If a newcomer posted this on their thread, what would you think about their S and mor importantly, what would you tell that newcomer?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!