Saw things clearer once you're in my rearviewmiror

[ImprovedRomeo]

NM, sorry i do know you're now single and free- just a habit to write STBX. BTW, did you celebrate your freedom and let him know:

"By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you deleted and blocked. You may now kiss my ass!"

NL, no problem about the hijack, my thread hasn't seen this kind of action in a while...I'm sure you can relate

But in all seriousness, I feel for you! It's unhealthy and affects other aspects of your life when you can't have a good sexual bond with your spouse. I'm picking up my jaw from reading it's been 5 years??! I have no idea how you've managed to not go crazy since you live with a man that you're physically attracted to. While STBXW wasn't exactly thrilled about sex either the dry spells were not nearly as long- a month or two would be the longest- I'm more a every other day type of a guy if I could have it my way...just so everyone's clear it wasn't me LOL. However, she had some medical issues and high dosage of ADs which affected her drive after having DD. Does your H have something similar? Because what guy doesn't like sex, it's usually the other way around. Then again I'm no Dr. love here. Have you sat him down and had a serious conversation? I don't think he realizes it's a big deal to you. It's important that he knows exactly how you feel and how you may even be frustrated to the point where you're considering something that you've never thought about doing before. Just in a nice way, two adults having a conversation - not an ultimatum...and then see if he's willing to seek professional/medical help. Perhaps you've already done all this? I mean short of slipping viagra into his drinks what else can you do? But hey you could try that too!

You sound like a good W and a dedicated mother. I hope things work out between you and your H- I really do NL! As for stating a new thread I think it'll be helpful for you, and while we're happy to host you in this section, there is a special SSM section on this board. You'll likely get more useful replies there from those in similar situations as you. I mean let's be honest many of us here don't get much action either but it's for other reasons- reasons beyond our immediate control

Sol, keep up the good work and Happy Thanksgiving to you too.

Have bitchin' holiday everyone!