HI,
I just caught my husband of 10 years talking with anther women on facebook this past sunday. He says it was just someone to talk with and he did delete her form his friends list. We have been struggling the last several months but I never thought it would come to this. He says is is confused and doesn't now what he wants. He says he feels trapped and even mentioned us seperating (with no intention of divorcing) I said it was a horrible idea and he has not brought it back up. He says this other women would listen when I wouldn't and told him great things about him while all I did was tear him down. He says he still loves me but is tired of the cycles we go through....great for a while and then back to fighting, and thinks we have grown to far apart to fix things. Honestly we have a pretty great marriage compared to many of our friends. He has been stuggling the last 2 years with depression and anxiety issues that are being treated with meds but not very well. He cycle through wanting major change a lot. Wanting to change jobs, move, sell the house, by investment property but it was never been with our marriage. I almost feel like he is having a breakdown and is completely lost.
We have a 5 and 3 year old and to the outside world we have it all. I also thought that frown I just ordered the book divorce busting but need to know what to do right now. We just started attending therapy 2 months ago but it has been little help so far. We are still sleeping in the same bed and he says he loves me but I am terrified he is going to make a rash dicision in his fragile state....he appears to be having panic attacts.

Please tell me what I should start doing now to save may marriage.