"I told you I'm not going to share anything with you about my connection with her"
Barb someone who is interested in reconciling a R does not talk like this.
They also if they are truly contrite about the A then they will want to prove to you beyond a shadow of a doubt that they can be trusted.
Then you trust BUT verify.
None of these is your H doing and he is now blaming you for his leaving because you don't trust him because is having an inappropriate relationship which he refuses to discuss with you?
Detach.
Let himn go.
There is nothing you can do for this right now.
Protect yourself legally, financially and emotionally and live your life like he is not coming back.
The quicker you do this the better.
All this begging and pleading for the M and him at ANY cost is not going to get you anywhere but hurt.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
