Wow, dbmod floored me with that response. That's about the most unselfish and caring advice I could have ever asked for. I'm doing just that, but scared that she's going to fall back down that very black hole.
She's mentioned needing closure from the OM -- and even feels a little guilty. I've told her that she cannot see him or she'll fall right back in. I can tell she's troubled by it.
She has agreed that we need to try and salvage our relationship so I guess all I can do is hope. That's a long way from where we were a few months ago.
Also, she is in counseling and I have been too. But we haven't started any couples counseling. We both agree that what we don't want is the same marriage we had before all this started. I'm just trying to figure out if we need couples counseling now (while she's still a little in the fog) or when she's over the OM.
