Still lost but still searching

[ericmsant2]

Tank

So, i got another kick in the nuts today. I lost my job. The company felt my personal issues were interfering with my job. I thought she was supposed to hit rock bottom not me!

1) sorry about the job loss dude
2) Now that I have said sorry, pick your as* up and start looking for a job.
3) You hit rock bottom or so you say, have you OR have you hit a place that will show Tank what Tank is made of.
4) FTR, blaming your wife or your sitch (although I understands) places you in a role of? Psstt...the word starts with the letter V.

Tonight, while watching my sons playoffs she asked me what was wrong, so i told her. She tried to give me a hug and i put my hand up and told her no.

Boundaries are a good thing when they are used to protect YOUR emotions. If they are used to "punish" then really they are not so good. Having said this, when your W reached over for a hug. Was it ANGER that cause you to say NO OR what is that emotionally you cannot allow yourself to go down that path?

One other point...Have you ever hugged and x girl friend? Ever hugged anyone that has pissed you off in the past.

IMO, not at least reciprocating was a nice way of just telling her f*ck you. If that is the message you want to deliver to her - then I guess you did fine.

It dawned on me today. Her affair and her leaving home was what started all of this.[quote]
You a victim? Is everything her fault? Dude I am not trying to be as*, just sayin that the more you look at what SHE does to YOU that impact this or that...the less time you spend looking at what YOU want and NEED to do for YOU.

[quote]My entire future is forever changed.

How it changes is determined to some extent by YOU?

Can you see how when you take ownership of YOUR life that YOU are now in control?

was easy to tell her no after that thought.

Easy is not always the best or right way.

Eric