Hit by truck 2 months ago

[habitacker]

I believe I know why I am fighting the DBing approach so much. I am sure it is the way for me. But the reason for my negativity is I can not stand to see the pain in my wife. It is killing me. All the books I have read and looking towards god and praying makes me feel good. I know what helps. I can feel it. It feels good to heal.
I can see her pain. I can see how tense she is when around me. She hides the pain, but I can see it, and it is bad. I could leave, but I know that is not going to help. Her problems will not just go away.
The ways to start healing are there. I know,I have found them. If she would just pick up a book or look to god or something, I know her healing can start. It feels so good when you do.
I know I am supposed to be focused on me, but she is my wife, and I love her and can't stand to see her in pain. I know she needs to find these things herself. It is so hard though when I have all of this in my possession and I can not give it to her. I can not help her or guide her. I pray all the time for her just to take a step. Pick up a book,the bible or any self help book, find a forum like this, anything, just take a step.
Any WAW or former WAW out there. Am I wrong? Did any of you ever get anywhere or start feeling better until you took a step like this?