Thanks so much for spending the time to post. Your advice and comments are spot on to what feels right on what I should be done. I am going to start a no snooping pact and do my best to do it. I see have experienced your point of once you have info, what do you do with it. It just makes me more resentful, when I need to try and be positive and get thru this and give it time to heal or dissolve. But I can't look back and think that I pushed her away from my snooping and reading into stuff. I can totally relate to the paralyzed comment at work. I spend way to much time and energy trying to figure her out and make her feel and think the way I want her to. Definitely a lost casue though as of course you can't control how someone else feels or how they act. Thanks for helping remind me of that.
Have a great Turkey day and hopefully some time off.
