I look at the offers to help out as being guilt driven or maybe looking for that ol' security blanket. I no longer see it as an atempt to return home or a sign of ANYTHING more.
In my H's case he usually follows through when it involves money. He usually just puts it on the ol' charge card though. Monopoly money is easy to pass out when you are in MLC land.
On your telescope, maybe you could start saving for it yourself? Even just $10 a week in a jar. Don't know how many weeks it would take, but at the end of that time you would have it all on your own. Your H's opinion wouldn't be so important then.
Hey 25,
I put some books by that author on hold at the library. Thanks for the recommendation. I still have a long road ahead of me.
I have been working hard to let the in-laws off the hook for a while now. I am glad that I did that too. I had to be the one to reach out, but they "left the door open" for me too. Everyone is hurting, not just me.
Older SIL let her kids know about the separation last night. I had told her to because D3 is starting to talk about having 2 homes. I didn’t want them to be blindsided and I didn’t want D3 to be hurt unintentionally if they weren’t aware. Oldest niece was most upset. Going to see them tonight with D3 for Disney Princesses on Ice. Good to get that over with before TK-day tomorrow.
All this pain so my H can "be happy." Saddest part is knowing he won't find it this way. No one truly finds joy by hurting others. It only comes by choosing joy wherever you are.
