She is looking for an apology from my mother, should I tell my mother this?
Oh well I know this dynamic.
Not your job to repair this relationship. Your job not to damage it.
What?
I mean let your Mom and your W work it out. If your Mom is interfering in YOUR M tell her politely stop.
If your W expects you to intervene on her behalf then tell her politely that you cannot control your Mom or how she feels.
DO NOT bash your W in front of your mom.
DO NOT bash your mom in front of your W.
It is almost like your children. You do not want to interfere with their relationship with their Mom. It is her job to repair anything there for HER.
Don't make it harder by building hills that people have to climb if and/or when there is a desire to repair that relationship.
This may be undoing a dynamic that BOTH of you have allowed to occur in your M.
Originally Posted By: SIC
She wishes she'd dated other people, and told me again that she feels like she only married me because she is was guilty that she cheated on me.
OK if you believe this (and I am skeptical this is the real truth only the truth right now in her mind) then would you want your W back under that condition?
Do you think someone who truly believes this will make a M work and be committed to it with love and integrity?
See where I am going?
Do you want your M back now at any cost?
She must figure out for herself what she wants and that has nothing to do with you only that you must SHOW her the man you are now or want to be NOW.
If she desires that man truly for what he is. Then your M has a shot.
So the work you must do is for YOU.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
