I am not sure if this is the place for religion but I need to ask this question. Jesus tells us we should seek reconciliation. When God tells us something we are supposed to do it as soon as possible. How do I do what Jesus and God say to do, and do what DBing says to do with a WAW? I am being told to go talk to my wife about reconciliation and forgiveness through God, but I am being told not to while DBing with a WAW.
IMO, you are doing what God wants you to do by DBing.
It may not be a direct conversation with your W about reconciliation, although, like the rest of us who come here, I believe you said you already told her you want to work on the M...
And nothing changed...
Maybe I misunderstanding your question...
Everything happens in God's time and in God's plan...
Neither I, nor anyone else here, can convince you to use DB techniques. That is your choice. I can tell you they work for me.
It is not something that will happen overnight. And I know you feel like you know so much already. You are learning, but life habits, don't change overnight. They take tons of time.
Please go back and read what has been written to you. There has been some very good advice given here from those who have been in the trenches and come out the other side.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
