As you all know I have been out with my XW a bunch of times with our kids. Each time I do it I want more (expectations). I had not heard from my XW since Thursday, which is not the norm. I was really struggling with having not seen my kids in days so I stopped by their school to say hi. I walked away broken hearted. This is so wrong that I have to go to my kids school to visit them. I should see them everyday.
Anyway, I received an email last night from my XW that my 7 year old daughter had punched my 6 year old son in the eye (gave he a black eye). We have recently started to have problems with my daughter at school as well. Probably due to our divorce, no doubt.
Anyway, I wrote a somewhat positive note to my XW about dealing with my daughter as well as some feeling I have been having. My XW wrote back how grateful she is of our relationship and always thinks of us as a family. That was it for me ! I very calmly and rationally explained that we would have to agree to disagree on this. I told her that we are two people living independent lives. Then I went on to describe what a real family is....blah blah blah.
The way I see it my XW comes and goes as she pleases now with no accountability to me or our family. She hangs out with me and our kids when it suits her. She contacts me when I have the kids to see how they are doing. We send each other photos of all our kids milestones etc. ENOUGH, I desserve better !!!
My XW and I are the perfect example of a couple that should NOT be divorced. The only problem is that my XW does not see it that way.
I think it's time for me to drop the rope. It's also time for us to start acting like a divorced couple. I think next time she contacts me when I have the kids I am going to calmly and firmly reply....."We are a family, if you want to be a part of this family then I welcome you to join us. If not, then can I ask you to please just focus on your own life"
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
