Hi Zen My H also goes into 'help out' phases...I think on a subconscious level its their way of making things a little more ok than they are...the only thing they can do really..to make everyone feel a bit better....
Just before my H jetsetted off to go visit OW for first time in her country (literally he was at the airport I think)he out of the blue txted me saying how he promises hes going to buy me A telecope I've always wanted and pay for a trip overseas for me and my parents.
Huh?
Once he got back he said he didnt want to buy the telescope anymore,I asked why, he said cause he didnt think i'd ever use it...mmmm.ouch. And only mentioned the parents thing once after that saying it was up to me to organise it...but i didnt really think he wanted to do it anymore anyway, so I left it
I've been wanting a 8 inch telescope for 8 years...:( Hurt just a bit...dangling a carrot then whisking it away like that Making me feel like he cared, and then just withdrawing the offer with such a horrible reason
My H also goes into 'help out' phases...I think on a subconscious level its their way of making things a little more ok than they are...the only thing they can do really..to make everyone feel a bit better....
