What motivates h? I'm lost there. I really have no clue. (t and a), bending over....
through the whole situation, over a year of seperation what i have learned is that i really do not know him, maybe some things but his core person, i have no idea.
he would love it if i allowed d3 to spend the night, she wouldn't though, she loves her house, her pets, her room, her toys, etc, i don't think her or i are ready for that.
this is where ihave a bad rub. he is off for thanksgiving, instead of asking what plans we have he kind of just ignores it, i believe that he wants that time for him, to go skiing, hanging with his buddies, or whatever. i find this unattractive and selfish and argue with myself that it is not good or is what is best for someone who has children to be so self absorbed.
better yet why i love this man with such differing values of family. I mean i hope i am wrong, i could be, but again i really have no idea. through relationship he seemed like he always wanted to break free. i was controlling to some point in my beliefs that if you are married with children you shouldn't be hanging with your friends, or prefer to do things with your friends or family.
i hope that is just something that i put on me, but based on his actions it is hard not to believe that.
i don't think that it is to much to expect your h to be home with you for dinner, want to do family things not going to baseball games with friends, party in vegas, etc..
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline