Kitti, It was a huge step to share all this with us-thank you for trusting us enough. You've kept all this inside for a long time because it was not safe for you to tell anyone. When you are in an abusive sitchuation, it seems there is no one to turn to. You know something of my sitchuation-if you go back in my threads, I shared pretty much everything. The shame does not lie with the abused Kitti, it lies with the abuser. You survived the best you knew how. You are to be commended for being a loving, caring person despite your past. No doubt you've been trying to sort things out for quite awhile now. It's not an easy thing to do, but you are a SURVIVOR Kitti. I know what it took for you to break your silence. What happened to you was not in any way your fault. You've been searching for your identity, because it was stolen from you years ago. Of course you've been confused. Of course you've been searching for love. All normal for what you lived. You have people here that care about you Kitti. If you want to talk ever-just let me know. I'm here for you. Rachael