online dating tips #3

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Thanks for all the responses. We have been dating for about 3 months.

She has money issues (among others) and lives with her neice. This is one of the reasons the kid tags along. We did have a discussion about this last week and she almost broke it off with me. She feels like I dont like her Son.

I told her that I did not disslike him, it just made me feel strange being intimate while having him in my house with us.

The reality is that her Son will never like any of Mom's dates because he would be stealing Mommy away from him. He even called his father to complain that his Mom loves g450 more than him. I understood the kids feelings as I felt the same way after my Dad died and Mom started bringing dates home and into her bedroom.

But I honestly dont see any issues between us personally. Me and him get along fine I think.

Anyway, we did make up. We only see each other on weekends so I decided to suck it up and deal with it. He is a good kid but can be annyoing sometimes as OPKs (Other Peoples Kids) can be.
Just this weekend I let him borrow my laptop and he managed to break the power chord for it somehow. But I remembered that I was a Dad also and my (now grown) Son did stuff like that also.

I guess I am being too critical and got used to being by myself. You have to take the good with the bad. But the affection I get from this woman and the fact that we get along great otherwise makes me want to stick it out with her so that is what I will continue to do.

KML you are right. She constantly portrays herself and her Son as a "package deal". She even told me that her Son is a part of her and I had to accept that if I wanted this relationship to work.

I have no problem with that but I get the feeling that she wants me to be a weekend rent-a-dad and that is something I will not do. I turned this around on her and asked her what more she wanted me to do regarding her Son that I was not already doing. She could not answer this question and it made her think.

I take him with us, I feed him and I let him enjoy the benefits of my home. I even got him a Christmas present. Not sure what the heck else she wants from me as she cant really tell me. I asked her to not just bring him without checking with me first. To me that is just common courtesy. "Oh by the way, Im bringing XXX" is a real mood killer and she forgets that maybe I might have made plans for us that day.

She does used the boy's Grandmother to watch him sometimes but they dont always take him in for some reason. The boy's father lives 200 miles away and could care less about him. In fact he cant even take care of himself much less a 12 year old boy. It's really sad.

Sorry for the rant guys but it helps to share this stuff with you.