My next thread was in piecing but it isnt long as it got a bit quiet in that forum!
How was work this weekend, not too hard I hope, I played with the furry motorbike then went out with the girls, drank a bit too much and still a little worse for wear unfortunately.
Back to work now, absolutely mental week, applying for new job, and conference for two days!
Anyway check in and let me know how you are?
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Yes how are you doing? It seems a few posts that were in this thread got deleted ...
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Yep, stuff got deleted. Was trying to reach others elsewhere and not sure how to do it...
Doing OK. I am in FL on vacation for the week with family. A first in a very long time. H's family always took precedence as did my work schedule but they have been more flexible with me knowing what is going on...
Haven't heard from the squirrel in weeks now. Know of his existence in the building when someone will make a comment that they were just talking to him etc.
Last time I was here in FL (April), he was with me. I keep thinking about all of the negative comments he was making, looking for reasons to leave our M (in retrospect). They were odd comments, picking at nearly anything. I remember thinking how depressed he must have been at the time. Now I have more clarity, I think, as to why he was saying those things. He kept making excuses to leave and trying to get me to hate him.
There is absolutely no communication at this time. I feel my chances of getting him to do the weekend counseling EVER at this point are dismal to none. I am afraid the tension is so high that his 'not yet' reply now means never. I wish I knew what to do to try to diffuse the tension without looking like I am pursuing him. He will be working in the clinic next week when I am back. It's not a guarantee I will run into him but it is likely. He still is not parking in the same area anymore.
The DBing was working to a degree in Sept, some of Oct but now it has taken a major backslide.
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
I feel your pain and frustration... I wish I had some advice to make it better Hang in there
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Holiday in FL sounds nice, Im horribly jealous, my work requires me to do long stints of work and only have my holidays in large blocks.. I get a week of at Xmas next then four weeks in Feb/March.
Must update all my sigs/notes as they are getting out of date..
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Found the niece/nephew's Halloween candy stash before bed... now I can't sleep. I've had enough coffee and sugar today for a week.
On the up side, it has given me time to think about my own question of what to do. I (obviously!) have been getting frustrated with not knowing what to do and not having anyone just tell me. I know exactly what I need to do. I need to continue NC. It is only a week away before I will likely run into him in the hospital. I will continue my 'as if' attitude. 'Hi, friendly neighbor'. Me being friendly and nonchalant is the only way I am going to get him to consider granting my last request...it is also the way I hooked him in the beginning (remembering LR's words...).
I feel better having a 'plan'. The holidays suck for me and I can't imagine they are much better for him.
LR- seriously? 4 weeks in feb/march? This is why I MUST find a job outside of this country!!!
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
Yes four weeks off in Feb/Mar and then I get mid July off till beginning of Oct.. I am currently applying for my boss's job and he is supposed to work all year, but Im hoping his current boss will see the benefit of not having to pay someone to sit around for long periods of time not doing anything.. Its all very stressful at work, thankfully H is being fantastic support, well he should be I only had to go back to work because he left me and now I go because I dont trust him to stay yet!
Did you find the DB page on the Alt? Lots of useful tips on there to read..
Will keep popping in on you!
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
So, since you feel better having a plan... Do you have one?
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
